NICOLE TORRES
Coach | Facilitator | Retreat Host
HAVE YOU EVER BEEN TOLD…
WHO you "should" be?
HOW you're "expected" to behave?
WHAT you "need" to do to succeed?
The external and internal pressures to "get it right" and not make any mistakes often leads to Perfectionism, People Pleasing, and eventually burnout.
It's totally normal to want to "do better" and "be better" - where we run into trouble is when we're unable to meet the expectations to be perfect and please everyone, because that's just not possible!
But we TRY...and it eventually leads to a cycle of stress and burnout - full of overwhelm, resentment, frustration, and shame.
When our self worth is inherently tied to our ability to achieve, succeed, do it "perfectly" or "be perfect" - we hop on a never ending cycle of chasing the impossible - then, we blame ourselves for "failing".
Amiga, it’s time to repair the way you think about your self worth and what's really motivating you to succeed.
It's no longer serving you to seek external validation to prove your WORTH and VALUE.
It's time to prioritize your wellbeing as PART of your success, not an afterthought...bc no one else will do this for you!
It's time to shift your relationship with work, rest, and productivity...because part of healing our generational line is creating wealth and "success" - without sacrificing our wellbeing to get it!
If you're a high achiever, notice if and when you're experiencing the downside of PERFECTIONISM and PEOPLE PLEASING in your life
Betraying your boundaries and needs to please and prioritize others
Feeling like a fraud and no matter what you do, it's just not good enough
Not voicing your needs for fear of judgment, rejection, or retaliation
Being extremely critical of yourself when you don't meet goals or expectations
Cycling through burn out as you prioritize achievement, status, and productivity
Self-medicating with drugs, alcohol, food, sugar, or constant "busy" work to avoid your feelings
Looking to others for fulfillment, validation, and direction
Losing yourself in relationships that feel one sided or unfulfilling
IF THIS IS YOU - WELCOME!
YOU'RE IN THE RIGHT PLACE. WHILE IT SEEMS MILLION MILES AWAY - IT'S 100% POSSIBLE TO BREAK THE CYCLE AND FIND PEACE.
WHAT FOLX ARE SAYING
Emmalee,
Executive Assistant
I have asked for and received multiple raises at work, while at the same time, finding a way to not work as hard by addressing the root causes of my perfectionism and people pleasing. I am starting to see a bigger and brighter future for myself where I can live a life that is authentic and not dictated by what what other people think.
Jessica,
Social Media Marketer
(I) have more empathy towards my mom and understanding for how she treated me. It doesn’t excuse her negligence and abuse but I can see how the traumas she went through affected her behavior and parenting style. And I saw how I am in a privileged position to be able to talk about my emotions and struggles with someone like Nicole but my mom never got that chance. So I felt more compassion, sadness, and grace for her.
Ruby,
Operations Manager
Being in a space with other women who come from similar backgrounds and have similar stories or difficulties with families and are choosing themselves was really powerful for me. It was the permission that I needed to put myself first...Having a group to explore spiritual topics with was really great for me and I feel like having the community as well as the guidance of the lectures has helped me grow more in alignment and brought more clarity to my connection with spirit.
Dalyn,
Travel Agent
The most beneficial thing I learned about myself was
learning to recognize my triggers, dealing with my anxiety in a productive manner and learning to establish boundaries. Nicole’s support and guidance is priceless.
I now have the tools to recognize my anxiety and tackle it head on vs letting it consume me.
